Comments on: A Garden Enclosed: The Importance of Modesty…and Immodesty

By: Jane Scott

Jane Scott — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 08:59:01 +0000

Thanks – I look forward to reading it! J

By: Mrs. Parunak

Mrs. Parunak — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 02:04:51 +0000

Jane,

You asked a wonderful question! I would love to write a whole post about that. It may take me a little while because I have a new baby, and my writing time is limited these days, but I’ll send you an e-mail when it’s up, Lord willing.

By: Jane Scott

Jane Scott — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:20:26 +0000

Hi
Thanks for your insightful thoughts. A question I have been pondering is how do we educate our daughters in this regard? As a young girl in a Christian home I received lots of teaching about not having sex before marriage, being modest etc. It was very hard for me to get my head around the fact that once I was married I could now be passionate and sexy without feeling bad. I want my children not to only receive “no” messages about intimacy as they grow up. How do we teach them about the “yes” messages without making it more difficult for them to remain pure?

By: Mrs. Parunak

Mrs. Parunak — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 03:44:53 +0000

Rina,

This is such a good question I don’t want it to get lost in an old comment thread, so I’ve started working on a post on this topic, and maybe we can get some good discussion going. I have another draft almost finished, and then I think I can work on this.

By: Rina

Rina — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 23:56:46 +0000

Mrs. Parunak,

I’m still exploring your archives, but found this link from Mrs. Anna T.’s website (whose archives I’m also exploring.) I love what you’ve written here and wonder if you might have any advice for those of us who don’t feel very comfortable with our own bodies and have trouble being revealing, even to our own husbands. After struggles with annorexia in the past, and having five children, I’m overweight and would be embarrassed to let my husband see me in an “immodest nightgown.” Do you have any advice for those of us who struggle with this?

By: lynne

lynne — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 05:01:27 +0000

this is to the wives who’s husbands who like them to look sexy in public. For a long time my husband and I were backslidden, not in church and not in God’s will. I dressed immodestly and my husband encouraged it, he wanted me to dress very sexy in public and wanted other men to look at me, ogle me, lust after me. When we got back into church I started feeling convicted about my dress and started to change. I told my husband that dressing immodestly was not honoring to him and his wanting me to dress that was was not honoring to me. I wish I had felt that way all along and never dishonored my husband by dressing immodestly in public, but I will say I love to let him help me buy sexy underwear and nighties to wear in the bedroom. Being sexy for your husband makes him feel wanted and special that you have something no other man gets to see.

By: Kendra

Kendra — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 03:45:35 +0000

I was interested in the comment the writer made that “the Bible doesn’t give hard and fast rules about it, yet we are commanded to dress modestly.”
I agree that the Bible does not draw a human body marking the areas God deems necessary to be covered. (This may be to avoid individuals aiming for as little as possible to still scrape by.)
However, the Bible does mention some specifics about what is considered “nakedness,” and therefore shameful.
Ex 28:42 & Isa. 47:2-3 both mention the thigh as an inappropriate or shameful part of the body to expose.
Isa 20:4 speaks of the buttocks and Ezekiel 16:7 mentions breasts in relation to nakedness.
These are just a few but they do show us some of the places we ought to cover up in public. Just some food for thought.

By: Mrs. Parunak

Mrs. Parunak — Wed, 28 May 2008 18:01:36 +0000

Ladies,

Recently, I have had to delete a few comments from this thread because the people writing them did not actually say anything. The comments were merely designed to shock those with conservative sensibilities or to call them names. In response to this, I have added Comment Guidelines to the top of my page. Those with dissenting opinions are more than welcome to join the discussion here, but if they would like their comments to be posted, they need to adhere to the guidelines.

By: Aurora Kat

Aurora Kat — Wed, 28 May 2008 03:11:51 +0000

I found this by way of the lovely Anna’s blog (^.^) and read ALL of it … and wanted to say, I found it very beautiful and inspiring. ~ As to those who say we are trying to “demonize sexuality” and “limit lust” or whatnot … just remember that Christ said, we are meant to live in the world but be of GOD not *of the world*… .

As for myself ~ I am not married and do struggle with what it means to be a modest woman, ESPECIALLY in the world we live in today … and to dress modestly but not frumpy; to cultivate academic skill and institutional respect while still being a Godly woman. WHEW it’s sometimes a lot to handle. … Thank God that He leads us. (^.^)

*~* Peace! *~*

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sun, 25 May 2008 04:05:27 +0000

The other day my husband was at a open house at Wood craft, the asked for anyone who had a picture of his wife in his wallet to come up and get a prize….. Caleb wasn’t anywhere near the front but he went up anyway with his wallet (with my picture) and apparently was the only one in the store who had a picture of his wife in his wallet. (he won me a travel mug:-)

the picture was taken just for him, I am dressed modestly, but the look on my face is very immodest but he is probably the only one that would recognize that.

The gift of sexuality is so special husbands and wives should treasure it.