Comments on: But Alas, I and My Children Turned Out to be Human http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/2009/06/16/but-alas-i-and-my-children-turned-out-to-be-human/ Sat, 20 Mar 2010 04:33:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Sarah Andrew http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/2009/06/16/but-alas-i-and-my-children-turned-out-to-be-human/comment-page-1/#comment-15711 Sarah Andrew Tue, 01 Sep 2009 04:19:37 +0000 http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/?p=824#comment-15711 Great post - very well said! I am pregnant with my first baby and already I am inundated with (well meaning) people recommending (at times rather pushily) this or that parenting or birthing plan. Apparently it doesn't end once the baby is out LOL! I hope your toilet training adventures have gone well since you posted this - I found your blog through Conversion Diary. Sarah :) Great post – very well said! I am pregnant with my first baby and already I am inundated with (well meaning) people recommending (at times rather pushily) this or that parenting or birthing plan. Apparently it doesn’t end once the baby is out LOL! I hope your toilet training adventures have gone well since you posted this – I found your blog through Conversion Diary.
Sarah :)

]]> By: Beth@Not a Bow in Sight http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/2009/06/16/but-alas-i-and-my-children-turned-out-to-be-human/comment-page-1/#comment-15707 Beth@Not a Bow in Sight Tue, 01 Sep 2009 02:15:22 +0000 http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/?p=824#comment-15707 The Bible should be the first book we look to for advice on any topic- it's all in there! Great post! The Bible should be the first book we look to for advice on any topic- it’s all in there! Great post!

]]> By: Meghann Jones http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/2009/06/16/but-alas-i-and-my-children-turned-out-to-be-human/comment-page-1/#comment-13780 Meghann Jones Fri, 26 Jun 2009 00:35:17 +0000 http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/?p=824#comment-13780 Preach it sister :) Preach it sister :)

]]> By: Charndra at Part Time Diaper Free! http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/2009/06/16/but-alas-i-and-my-children-turned-out-to-be-human/comment-page-1/#comment-13710 Charndra at Part Time Diaper Free! Tue, 23 Jun 2009 01:07:43 +0000 http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/?p=824#comment-13710 Well said, and well said Rebecca! I am certain there is no-one who really gets their apples all in a row - but we share the shining bits with others in hope it might help them! With EC, I think that is part of the reason it isn't common - all those dreadful articles saying "My baby never wet his pants past 6 weeks" Puleeeease! Sensationalism for headlines plays a part of course - I've given EC interviews going on and on about misses being normal, blah blah, part-time, diaper back-up - only to see it edited to something atrocious! Some people do catch practically all poos - but NEVER all wees - you'd go nuts trying! And there is no need... Charndra Well said, and well said Rebecca! I am certain there is no-one who really gets their apples all in a row – but we share the shining bits with others in hope it might help them!

With EC, I think that is part of the reason it isn’t common – all those dreadful articles saying “My baby never wet his pants past 6 weeks” Puleeeease! Sensationalism for headlines plays a part of course – I’ve given EC interviews going on and on about misses being normal, blah blah, part-time, diaper back-up – only to see it edited to something atrocious!

Some people do catch practically all poos – but NEVER all wees – you’d go nuts trying! And there is no need…

Charndra

]]> By: Rebecca http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/2009/06/16/but-alas-i-and-my-children-turned-out-to-be-human/comment-page-1/#comment-13653 Rebecca Fri, 19 Jun 2009 20:11:42 +0000 http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/?p=824#comment-13653 This is such a good reminder for all of us. But just as much as we need to remember that no matter what method we use we'll have THOSE days occasionally, we also need to remember that about others. It is so easy to place another family, who seems to have it all together, up on a pedestal and assume that the parents have it all worked out. They may have wonderful ideas, that work in general, but as you have pointed out so well - we are all human. I know people have praised me for years, commenting on how patient I was, and that this must be why my children are so well behaved (okay - 1st they usually only see them in public, in which case the children are under threat of severe penalty if they misbehave), but I have always insisted just the opposite. I had a dear friend once who told me I should use the opportunity to let others know that it's not in my own strength, but with God's help that I can be patient, but I must admit, that while her suggestion sounded really great I felt in my heart it was a lie - because I'm not at all patient. As I have told everyone for years (and now my lovely girls confirm this by laughing when someone suggests I'm patient) my children behave (reasonably) well more because I'm impatient and intolerant of misbehavior than because I'm patient and understanding. While I would love to be the kind of mom everyone else apparently thinks I am, I'm not, and I don't want anyone else thinking I'm just wonderful and that they'll never be able to to accomplish in their own homes what we have managed in ours. Yes, it takes hard work and lots of prayer, no matter what method you use, but I have never met anyone who doesn't have struggles when raising their children - that's how most "methods" are discovered - someone hit upon something that worked for a problem they had, or wanted to avoid. This is such a good reminder for all of us. But just as much as we need to remember that no matter what method we use we’ll have THOSE days occasionally, we also need to remember that about others. It is so easy to place another family, who seems to have it all together, up on a pedestal and assume that the parents have it all worked out. They may have wonderful ideas, that work in general, but as you have pointed out so well – we are all human. I know people have praised me for years, commenting on how patient I was, and that this must be why my children are so well behaved (okay – 1st they usually only see them in public, in which case the children are under threat of severe penalty if they misbehave), but I have always insisted just the opposite. I had a dear friend once who told me I should use the opportunity to let others know that it’s not in my own strength, but with God’s help that I can be patient, but I must admit, that while her suggestion sounded really great I felt in my heart it was a lie – because I’m not at all patient. As I have told everyone for years (and now my lovely girls confirm this by laughing when someone suggests I’m patient) my children behave (reasonably) well more because I’m impatient and intolerant of misbehavior than because I’m patient and understanding. While I would love to be the kind of mom everyone else apparently thinks I am, I’m not, and I don’t want anyone else thinking I’m just wonderful and that they’ll never be able to to accomplish in their own homes what we have managed in ours. Yes, it takes hard work and lots of prayer, no matter what method you use, but I have never met anyone who doesn’t have struggles when raising their children – that’s how most “methods” are discovered – someone hit upon something that worked for a problem they had, or wanted to avoid.

]]> By: Rachel http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/2009/06/16/but-alas-i-and-my-children-turned-out-to-be-human/comment-page-1/#comment-13635 Rachel Fri, 19 Jun 2009 02:03:29 +0000 http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/?p=824#comment-13635 You have me laughing, I had to read part of your post to Caleb. Goodness, I had things way more figured out about the parenting thing before I became a parent! My one baby wants to eat every 20 minutes, while my other would rather go the whole day without touching any food! There are so many theories about discipline and such, and of course I have oppinions like anyone else. But I have to say you just make it all seem less scary. :-) You have me laughing, I had to read part of your post to Caleb. Goodness, I had things way more figured out about the parenting thing before I became a parent! My one baby wants to eat every 20 minutes, while my other would rather go the whole day without touching any food!

There are so many theories about discipline and such, and of course I have oppinions like anyone else. But I have to say you just make it all seem less scary. :-)

]]> By: Marisa http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/2009/06/16/but-alas-i-and-my-children-turned-out-to-be-human/comment-page-1/#comment-13623 Marisa Thu, 18 Jun 2009 13:30:22 +0000 http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/?p=824#comment-13623 Thanks so much for this post! It's easy to fall into the trap of "So-and-so's kids seems so good! What am I dong wrong?". We all have off-days. It's just a matter of whether or not we admit it!:) And Amen for pointing to the best Book of all! Thanks so much for this post! It’s easy to fall into the trap of “So-and-so’s kids seems so good! What am I dong wrong?”. We all have off-days. It’s just a matter of whether or not we admit it!:) And Amen for pointing to the best Book of all!

]]> By: Kim from Canada http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/2009/06/16/but-alas-i-and-my-children-turned-out-to-be-human/comment-page-1/#comment-13613 Kim from Canada Thu, 18 Jun 2009 02:33:48 +0000 http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/?p=824#comment-13613 Big cheers for being human! I'm glad you have something to talk about besides being perfect - that would give us nothing in common. Except if we're talking about being the perfect fool, perfect sinner, perfect example of repeated failures, etc. Man...now I need a pep talk. I better read the post again ;o) Big cheers for being human! I’m glad you have something to talk about besides being perfect – that would give us nothing in common. Except if we’re talking about being the perfect fool, perfect sinner, perfect example of repeated failures, etc. Man…now I need a pep talk. I better read the post again ;o)

]]> By: Organizing MOmmy http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/2009/06/16/but-alas-i-and-my-children-turned-out-to-be-human/comment-page-1/#comment-13612 Organizing MOmmy Thu, 18 Jun 2009 02:21:48 +0000 http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/?p=824#comment-13612 Oh, I'm all about getting those goldfish in line. Woo wweee. You are a hoot. I think I had never given birth to my third child, I might be arrogant enough to hand out parenting books, advice or even hints. As it is, I am doing chin ups on the curb whenever I think of my strange parenting methods. I tried so hard to do everything right, but life is so not perfect. Lord, save my children and make them godly, in spite of me! Oh, I’m all about getting those goldfish in line. Woo wweee. You are a hoot. I think I had never given birth to my third child, I might be arrogant enough to hand out parenting books, advice or even hints. As it is, I am doing chin ups on the curb whenever I think of my strange parenting methods. I tried so hard to do everything right, but life is so not perfect. Lord, save my children and make them godly, in spite of me!

]]> By: Laurie http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/2009/06/16/but-alas-i-and-my-children-turned-out-to-be-human/comment-page-1/#comment-13601 Laurie Wed, 17 Jun 2009 21:02:00 +0000 http://parunak.com/pursuingtitus2/?p=824#comment-13601 Lovely! This blog is a breath of fresh air in the know-it-all-world of blogsphere. And I'm guilty too for my enthusiam at times. Lovely! This blog is a breath of fresh air in the know-it-all-world of blogsphere. And I’m guilty too for my enthusiam at times.

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