Comments on: On Second Thought, Maybe God was Right

By: KallyLyn

KallyLyn — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 18:41:53 +0000

I didn’t read the article- just the blog post. I am 16. A few years ago, I had a run-in with porn. Fortunately, my Mom found out and helped me get over it somewhat quickly. However, it did leave an imprint on my mind. I will always remember the things that I saw.
No, I didn’t do anything. But I began to have a bad image of myself. Physically and emotionally.
I knew that porn was bad, and very much wanted to get away from it- hadn’t asked for it in the first place. But I just couldn’t work up the will-power to actually do it. It was like some people are with cigarettes.
And guess what started it all? A counter-top display at the local Citco. Yep, you can’t even get a Coke without being exposed to this stuff.

Ladies, it’s not just your sons you need to protect. Porn will ruin your daughters, as well. After all, they are mostly girls shown in the pictures… Curiosity really will kill the cat if not controlled.

By: Kim from Canada

Kim from Canada — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 13:23:38 +0000

Not really an argument here – I have seen grown men die spiritually and emotionally while burying themselves in a world of porn. It is one of Satan’s greatest tools in our culture today.

By: Mrs. Anna T

Mrs. Anna T — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 06:55:17 +0000

I agree. Porn is disgusting. It wrecks families, it wrecks pure, chaste marriage relationships. I abhor it.

By: linda

linda — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 07:02:16 +0000

Dear Mrs P, I find reading stuff about porn just plain depressing and I feel sorry for young women today. I was a teenager in the 80’s, it wasn’t so bad then.Don’t worry I certainly didn’t live in a vacuum but I agree, porn just makes people feel inferior especially in the bedroom .What can we do- keep on venting , give up and live in our own world,I don’t know,infact when it comes to stuff like that in the world our only hope is in Jesus.From Linda

By: Jennifer (Conversion Diary)

Jennifer (Conversion Diary) — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 21:26:33 +0000

Wow, that is fascinating. You might also find it interesting to read the interview James Dobson did with Ted Bundy the day before he was executed. Bundy talked at length about how pornography influenced his behavior. What I thought was most interesting was when Bundy said, “I’ve lived in prison for a long time now, and I’ve met a lot of men who were motivated to commit violence. Without exception, every one of them was deeply involved in pornography…The F.B.I.’s own study on serial homicide shows that the most common interest among serial killers is pornographers.” The entire interview is here:
http://www.pureintimacy.org/piArticles/A000000433.cfm

That’s not to say that everyone who looks at pornography will be a serial killer, of course, but I do think it’s very indicative of the type of dehumanizing evil at work there. Anyway, thanks for another thought-provoking post!

By: Organizing MOmmy

Organizing MOmmy — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 22:29:40 +0000

hey L, I agree. There is something more powerful than I strong sexual relationship in a marriage, but the only thing I can think of is: Jesus Christ. After the fires have cooled down (and I hope they never do), I know we’ll be sitting there, holding hands and singing praise to Jesus together. Many fires can not quench love…

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 15:56:13 +0000

Hmmmm. I wonder if anyone will ever be able to convince the masses of this. Any rational person could understand this, but, I fear, rationality is as rare as purity these days.

By: Meghann Jones

Meghann Jones — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 15:50:58 +0000

The last line of the article was so sad…but so true in our culture these days.

I remember a conversation I had with a co-worker about ten years ago on this very subject. Even then when I was not walking with the Lord at all, I still abhored pornography. He was telling me how he would quit looking at it when he was in a relationship, for the very reason the article stated…that is would take away his excitement for his current partner. Until then, I had never heard that thought before.

By: L.

L. — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 13:15:55 +0000

I personally find porn distasteful, even as a non-religious person — kind of like opening a door by mistake, seeing something I don’t want to see, and closing it quickly. (As a journalist, I am a free speech fanatic, so while I don’t happen to like it myself, I am vehemently in favor of allowing consenting adults allowed to produce, distribute and consume it — but that’s another subject all together!)

What jumped out at me most in the Wolf article, oddly enough, was this:

“These cultures urge men not to look at porn because they know that a powerful erotic bond between parents is a key element of a strong family.”

I disagree. Strongly! I know many happy marriages in which the embers have cooled, so to speak — or were never on fire in the first place. I live in Japan, and some of my friends’ marriages here were arranged. There was NO sexual spark (on the part of the women, at least). What brought these couples together was a shared mission of familial responsibility, which over time, lead to love between the partners. The sex was necessary to create the children, of course, but was incidental to the purpose of their union. And many of these marriages are among the strongest and happiest I have ever seen.

I would say that while a powerful erotic bond CAN be a key element to a strong family (and certainly doesn’t hurt!), it doesn’t HAVE to be key. It is up to the individual couples to mutually determine it for themselves.

By: Ruby

Ruby — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 05:23:39 +0000

Thanks for the link.
Although my parents bedroom was not as the one described, it was definately out of bounds for us kids! It was their private domain. Families are very “open” nowadays. I am shocked that I have to ask visiting kids to leave my bedroom!
Immodesty..definately. I feel sad for those young folk trying to have normal happy lives under such social pressures.