Recently, I received a couple of very thought provoking comments wondering about the prudence of sending our daughters to college. I think about this a lot off and on, but I have not come to solid enough conclusions that I’m ready to write “the answer.” So, I thought I’d pass the comments off to all of you to see how you would answer. (I’ve edited them slightly for clarity. You can find the originals in the comment thread on this post.)
I am wondering what your thoughts are on your college experience. If I remember correctly, you went to college (a pretty good one in fact) — do you think that was a waste of your time/money/effort? And, are you planning on encouraging your daughters to go to college? The practical side of me thinks that it’s a waste to send women to college who make the choice to be housewives/stay-at-home mothers. The other side of me knows that college has shaped me profoundly and I would be a different person without it (for more than simply academics). Would you encourage your daughter(s) to go to, say, community college, and send your son(s) to Ivy League schools? This is something I’ve been thinking about recently as I think about how I want to shape and teach my children.
Sometimes, I can’t help but think that my college education was a waste, or at least that I could have gone to a less expensive university and gotten a similar education for a lot less cost. I want my daughter (and son) to get the best education they can, I want them to have the full college experience, but do I want my daughter to then become a stay-at-home wife/mother? And if so, will I be the one paying for her education? Should she take out loans and let her husband foot the bill after they get married? I am confused about this.
So, what do y’all think? How would you answer these questions? (As always, remember that my standard for niceness in comments goes way, way up when I pose questions that originally came from other people. Not that I think any of my regular commenters will have any trouble being gracious, though!)